I did not see that coming.

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Step 6: Build your new expectation model

  • Using the lessons learned, update your internal model of how things tend to go.

  • Recognise that some things will still surprise you. Don’t expect zero surprises — expect adaptation.

  • Practice “What if …” scenarios: What if something unexpected happens? What would I do? This doesn’t remove surprise, but improves readiness.

Step 7: Move forward with resilience

  • Implement your chosen next move.

  • Monitor progress, update your plan if new surprises emerge.

  • Keep your emotional energy intact — focusing too much on surprise can drain you.

  • Celebrate when you respond well to a surprise — resilience grows.

Part III: Examples & flavours of the phrase

The phrase “didn’t see that coming” can appear in various contexts — some light-hearted, some serious. Understanding these helps you apply the “recipe” appropriately.

Example A: Personal Life

You find out a close friend is moving abroad with little notice. You think: “Wow —I didn’t see that coming.”

  • Recognise: Surprise at their decision.

  • Analyse: You assumed friend was settled; maybe you missed dissatisfaction cues.

  • Accept: You’re shocked.

  • Decide: Talk to friend, understand reasons; adapt your plans for staying in touch.

  • Learn: Next time, you’ll watch for hidden signs of big decisions.

  • Move: Make a plan for how you two remain connected.

Example B: Workplace

Your boss unexpectedly resigns — “Well, I didn’t see that coming.”

  • Recognise: Big surprise.

  • Analyse: Did you ignore dissatisfaction, rumours?

  • Accept: You feel unstable.

  • Decide: Adjust your career plan; talk to new manager; update your resume.

  • Learn: Watch for signs of leadership change in future.

  • Move: Secure your position, network, and use the event as an opportunity.

Example C: Health / Life event

You get unexpected medical news. “I didn’t see that coming.”

  • Recognise: Deep shock.

  • Analyse: Maybe subtle symptoms overlooked; maybe purely chance.

  • Accept: Allow space for processing.

  • Decide: Meet doctor, plan treatment, adjust lifestyle.

  • Learn: Prioritise check‑ups, listening to your body.

  • Move: Begin treatment, support network, rebuild sense of control.

Example D: Financial / Global

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