On Mother’s Day, my grown kids told me they had chosen the restaurant and expected me to pay for all twelve of them, just like always.

She stood beneath the massive dome while sunlight poured through the oculus in a perfect white column. Tourists whispered and took photos around her, but Helen stood still with her eyes raised.

She thought of Daniel.

She thought of the twenty-two-year-old version of herself who had wanted to study art history, who had loved old buildings and handwritten letters and black coffee. She thought of the thirty-five-year-old mother packing lunches before dawn. The forty-eight-year-old widow signing insurance papers with numb fingers. The fifty-five-year-old grandmother driving across town with groceries because Brian had forgotten to shop before a snowstorm. Mother'sDay gifts

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But none of them had to be all of her.

That afternoon, she joined a small walking tour. The guide was a silver-haired Roman woman named Lucia who spoke English with warmth and precision. There were seven people in the group: two retired teachers from Oregon, a young couple from Toronto, a nurse from Chicago, and a widower from Boston named Arthur Bell.

Arthur was sixty-six, gentle in manner, and carried a folded map even though he used his phone for directions. During the tour, he noticed Helen lingering over a carved doorway longer than the others.

“First time in Rome?” he asked.

“Yes,” she said. “First time anywhere just for myself.”

Arthur smiled. “That is a very good reason to look slowly.”

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